Updated: Mar 10
Have you ever been so excited to start your transformation journey, only to be brought down by "Karens" that have a problem with this new lifestyle of yours?
You may start to hear things like....
"You are getting too skinny"
"You were more fun when you ______(insert bad habit)"
"Ok ok, we know you got your workout in today" - (referring to your frequent posts on social media)
"Be careful, you shouldn't overdue it"
"Don't you have anything better to do?"
"I don't know how you have time for that"
"Must be nice"
"I can't believe you are actually going to eat that"
Those are just a few examples.....
If you've experienced any sort of weight/fat loss, odds are, you've probably experienced similar situations.
So, how do you handle this?
First, and foremost, it's important to understand that when people (yes, even loved ones) make comments to you....its THEIR insecurities shining through. You see, it's not that they actually have a problem with YOUR weight loss, but deep down they know that they need to do something about their own health. Therefore, you make them uncomfortable. And instead of admitting it, it is MUCH easier to put you down for your hard work & dedication.
It's a reflection of them, not you.
Unfortunately, this is where people will start to feel bad or guilty for making their health a priority.
❌ DON'T ❌
This is exactly how "they" want you to feel.
Don't you ever, I mean EVER, feel bad for taking care of and nourishing the ONE body you will ever be given. You got one shot, thats it. Do not let THEIR insecurities rub off on you.
And even though it's easier said than done to not let these comments derail your progress a bit, it's important to understand where it is coming from.
Instead of writing them off, first, try inviting them along.
It can be something as simple as inviting them to go on a walk, or join you for a workout, or maybe even just sharing your favorite recipe with them.
Not that you should EVER have to explain your reasonings behind getting healthy, sometimes an honest conversation with them giving your reasons WHY you are choosing this new lifestyle, may be able to help them open their eyes a little bit. And do it from a place of love.
For instance, take our client Molly for example. Breast Cancer runs in Molly's family. After Molly lost over 100 lbs on our program, she went to the doctor and found out that her risk of breast cancer had decreased by almost 70%!!! Now if THAT isn't something to make you work towards, I don't know what is. If Molly were to share those statistics with the people that were giving her a hard time in the beginning, I would bet they would understand a little bit more why Molly works so hard on her health. They may see that Molly actually has a burning desire to be around for her children & grandchildren.
Now, unfortunately, jealousy will still sometimes take over. Given their low self-esteem, it aggrevates them to see someone else doing well.
One of the things you can practice to help you deal with these types of people is to come up with reasons as to why what Karen is saying is untrue. (do this quietly in your own mind or write down these facts on paper)
This will help remind you to focus on your positivity, and not their negativity. After lots of practice, you will train your mind to combat the negative comments in real-time and replace them with what YOU KNOW to be true.
Do not let their words have power over you. You are SO much more than what other peoples opinions of you are.
And lastly, say "GOOD RIDDENS" to repeat offenders! 👋🏼